How can I get my friends to quit telling me to 'find someone else' to get over a LTR breakup?

I don't have a lot of close friends right now and it's important that I retain the respect of the few I have. My postbreakup depression's scared most away. 10 years is a long time to be with someone who was perfect, physically, intellectually, spiritually. When we first started I was 30 and he was 18. Now he is 30, says it's real LOVE with a younger girl. 2 years later; I'm no closer to being "over it" than I was in '06. Well-meaning friends ALWAYS tell me to find a new guy but when you had ALL you wanted in one person it's only downhill. At my age none of the slinky longhaired types I dig are gonna want me, just lonely old men, and I can't think of lying in bed with the sad old men available to me (it's unfair! but it's what attractive vigorous guys think of ME!) I want to walk off a cliff even thinking of sex with others. I'm done! How can I make my friends understand I'm through, since anyone I'd be able to get wouldn't be attractive to me. Any who are? Out of my league! Help!

How can I get my friends to quit telling me to 'find someone else' to get over a LTR breakup?
nobody can tell you what to do, it has to come from inside you.. but it cannot come if you don't do the first step... I was one day there where you are now.. Attempted suicide.. lost everything because of my pain... one day I woke up and decided that I don't want to die.. but to live and start all over.. I knew I will never met a person who worth more than her toe nails.. I WAS WRONG VERY VERY WRONG.. 2 years later (yes it was a long time) I met the most wonderful women on earth she made me feel I was just born, I forgot everything , my pain, my worries, and i am happy and I have the world in my fingers... and the most important of all, wiser.. although I am very romantic, and feel that life worse nothing without her.. I know that I can lose her at anytime, and if it happens, I can't do anything but goes on in life and restart


one more important thing in my life that I cannot omit.. I did put my life in the hands of GOD one Friday night, and told him to take charge.. I met her the next day SATURDAY.. There is somebody somewhere waiting for you....Good luck
Reply:You can't find happiness in ANY guy; it comes from within. Know that. Tell them that.
Reply:Get over the guy


Move on with you r life


get up off the computer


and go out their and


meet new people,


how do you know noone will


LOVE you for you if your to busy


MOPEING arround and feeling


so SAD over a relationship that ended 2 years ago!!
Reply:a new guy is a bandaid nothing more.going onto a new situation with old baggage is a bad idea.Take your time let your freinds know if they are freinds just to be there and you dont want to move on till fully healed.They should support your decision.what ever it is worth you are doing the right thing when the new guy does come along you wont be carring stuff that is going to affect something real. Hang in there