Do you also find it hard to make (genuine) friends?

I'm 20 and have a great boyfriend, who is also my best friend. I only have 1, maybe 2 other people in my life who I could consider my best friends, and that's only because I talk to them more frequently than my other acquaintances (which is sometimes only once a week.) What am I doing wrong here? This has been an ongoing trial for over 3 years. I find it so hard to make great friends (and I'm not just talking about "drinking buddies" who only ever want to go to the bars and whatnot - true and honest friendship only once felt during childhood it seems.) Those friends have since moved away or we simply didn't keep in touch. And anytime I try to MAKE friends, they're always busy doing something with their other "real" friends who actually bother calling them and remaining interested. I don't think I'm boring? Going on Facebook just depresses me when I see everyone uploading pictures from the weekend and whatnot.


So what are your thoughts on the matter? The loneliness is getting to me

Do you also find it hard to make (genuine) friends?
I read an article that said that people have less friends than 20 yrs ago and I find it true. I feel your pain bec. I feel the same way. My hubby is my best friend. I have only only other close friend and she is from my childhood. All the other way moved away and bec my hubby's job (we transfer every 4 years to another state). It's pretty hard. When they do have work gathering, I normally don't fit in bec most of these women are my mom's age or older. They feel intimidated by me. I'm not sure if it's bec I'm pretty, nice and smile. Maybe it won't always be like this.


Join a sports team or get together with other people who are in the same hobby as you. I have not been able to find anyone in this city who is into the same thing(grr).
Reply:Go out drinking with them, drinking is a good bonding experience. Also get hotter, people like being friends with hot people. Really.
Reply:yea pretty much dood
Reply:of course. nobody's perfect. but if you want real friends, you gotta learn to look past the imperfections. :) try mixing around with everyone. don't just stick to one group. there's bound to be somebody you REALLY like. that's what i do.
Reply:I know what you mean. Im in college and I've lost touch with my high school friends who've all gone off with new friends in their new lives and Im stuck - it seems everyone I meet already has big circles of friends and Im not looking for general acquaintances Im looking for best friends but its impossible. At least you have the boyfriend to talk to though.
Reply:hi;if you want friends,then show yourself friendly,maybe it's just not meant for you to have all of these people as your closest friends.i know that i love everybody yet i only have a few that i consider my best friends.hun just be the best friend you can with the ones you have, and show them the upmost respect,;be thankyou for what you do have.and realize that there are alot of people out in the world,that you really can not trust,to keep them as your closest friend.s


take care now.
Reply:OMGoodness. I'm22 and I feel the exact same way about facebook and everything. I think it's because I have a boyfriend and don't really have much money because I don't work right now. I feel like everyone is having a 'grand old time' together...without me! I'm a good person and a trusted friend to the end so I don't like to get close to just anyone, that could be it to.





oh and my myspace is : myspace.com/BrandiDelise
Reply:I'm not going to say "don't feel bad because you're not the only one in that situation" because it's hard to not feel bad about it. i'm in your situation, good girlfriend, very few real friends, not even sure if my "real" friends are truly real. i have no idea. i know it sucks. i just try to do the stuff that i like to do, to feel good about myself, i guess. if you ever get a good answer to your question, let me know.
Reply:Me and My best friends have been best friends for about 13 years. I believe real friends will find you. Just be patient.
Reply:no i find it hard to make fake friends
Reply:Yes. It's really hard. I can rarely ever find anyone I truely connect with. I mean, sure, I have thousands of good friends who I share my LIFE with, but it still feels like they don't care and I can admit that I don't really get too much into their stories either. But I do have a few who are totally genuine and the best person ever....


peace out
Reply:think about what qualities make a good genuine friend, one like what you want and then just be that way to the people you meet who you feel are worthy and trust worthy. We all screw up at some point too. Don't be too harsh and pick your battles but just like having a boyfriend or girlfriend, other same sex friend relationships take work too. Don't leave it all up to them, you call em and ask about their day, you call them and try to make plans, etc.
Reply:hey, i find it really hard to make trustworthy friends. most of them come around when i have my boyfriends and leave when they go.





i have no real friends where i can create that bond with, and i'm not boring. i just really want a BEST friend, you know? but you could help yourself by not typin so much!! if you want, you can email me, dk_delicious1.





at least we know we have 1 thing in common!
Reply:no, im best friends w/ everybody, maybe ur just a hard person to get along w/ . sry,
Reply:no
Reply:OMG u sound just like me. And then u wonder why everyone isn't as honest as you, and where all the open people are.


Just continue to be yourself. You will make friends as you go along in life. The ones you make will be real ones. Just remember, we are meant to be honest and caring. Its everyone else who has the problem. LOL
Reply:Join a club or group, I joined Lions clubs.And it changed me. nice to help others And enjoy being with great people,,
Reply:You don't need to know each other in the physical world to be friends.





What are your interests? Seek others with those interests? You could even look up websites and see if there aren't social groups surrounding those interests in your local area.
Reply:It is more difficult to find true firnds, that you could be friends forever with. but maybe you just need to be friends with people longer, and get to know them better and it will get easier.
Reply:As long as you have a few great friends that's all that matters. Some people have no friends, remember.





Some people are just destined to have only a few good friends. I would rather have a few good ones than loads of ish friends.