Do you also find that making friends after 30 is hard?

The thing is - I moved countries 6 years ago and live in Ireland. It has been a challenge to make new friends. Suppose, the fact that my husband is not outgoing did not help either. I made several friends here, but, oh boy, did it take time! I am always comparing with my friends from home and I just think that the meaning of friendship is totally different - it's more cold, more formal. And I am not entirely happy in my friendships here: one of friends lives in a different city, another one is into drinking in pubs (which is not my thing). I had to finish my 1 -year old friendship recently because she used to put me down a lot, used to yell at me and was too judgemental. Another one is quite selfish and would always want me to drive to her place, would not make an effort to meet at least once a month, etc. What is wrong with me? Do you also find it difficult to make friends after 30? Is it because most of people are married with children and have no time?

Do you also find that making friends after 30 is hard?
Forget those who make u upset. Think positively, open up ur heart.





- Remember, every relationship start with this word - "Hi !"





- Step out and take some classes, such as cooking class / dancing class / language class etc. Better than bored at home facing the square wall.





- Find a job. Your co workers might be your friend in future, isn't it ?





- Involve yourself in some religion or social activities(not the politics type).





- SMILE always and may you have a brighter day tomorrow !
Reply:is that what it is???? making friends after 30? i think it's from moving. there's a definite difference in life long friends. i miss home all the time and all the friends i had. i have moved so many times, and i feel so alone because of that.


good luck to you..........keep working on it. a good friend is better than gold!!!!
Reply:Friends do seem hard to come by. I work alone so I don't even have co workers to chat with. Maybe we should try to go out of our way to meet new people, but where does one go to make friends when you've hit thirty?
Reply:I think a lot of it has to do with people "our age" are married and with the cost of living so high both spouses work, so their days off are spent with eachother. It does suck though, I married young had kids young, now (33)divorced kids are teenegers and all my 'friends' are just starting. I have not met any new friends in years. All my co-workers are old!!
Reply:it gets really hard to find new good friends when you are older..


when you were a child you can find them everywhere ..so as when you were in college...i'm 23 years old


and I moved to new country lately and i haven't find a good friends yet..it's so hard ...
Reply:You wanna know why its so hard to make new friends? Its because you can't trust people these days. People are only watching out for themselves. So you never know if a potential friend is just trying to use you or if he/she is the real deal.
Reply:i have to agree with you. im 32 and i dont have many friends. as a matter of fact, i dont have ANY friends. i mean, i have co workers and we talk at work but we dont do things together like true friends would do.


people just dont get together anymore like they did when i was a kid. i remember my mom and dad would always have company. someone was always visiting or they were always going out with their friends. hmm, people have changed.. no one wants to make the effort anymore.. its depressing really.
Reply:In Ireland, especially, it would probably be hard to trust new people coming into the area. With all the fighting that goes on over there amongst themselves ( the orange and the green ) they would be wondering whose side your on first.