Hard to find great quality friends?

I've never been able to find a best friend really - all the friends I have seem to want like 100 friends who they can spend time with when and as they choose and I dont just want to be a number to a friend - I want closer more exclusive friendships but why is that so hard to find nowadays?

Hard to find great quality friends?
I've been wondering that myself. I am totally social, I've made 100's of friends had over 100 numbers in my cell at one point in time and always had someone to do something with. But when I think of who will actually be there for me when things get ugly... I don't really know! I've had one best friend and I had to move away (I was only 12) and now that I'm an adult I look back and find that I haven't had a best friend (that stuck) since... It's hard to find good hearted down to earth people. Seems like a lot of people are in it for themselves, too caught up in the social game or simply just someone who you have good chemistry with. I've had one really good friend since I was 12, I would say Best friend, and we ended after a year becuase she got serious with someone and we kind of fell out... I don't know why, just her big change in life I guess... I'm married now and I think it makes things a little harder becuase often it's "couples" that hang out. You have to practically "date around" for a couple to hang out with!!! LMAO But in the end people seem so shallow, fake or just into sitting around having a meaningless life in what I've observed. Rarely people want to get out and do new things or think about someone else other than themselves to care about... It's really sad... But I guess when you find someone or a group it'll make things that much better. I've always wanted to be like the girls on Sex in the City or Desperate houswives with sunday tea or lunch!
Reply:You are right...it's very difficult to find real friends, to have things in common ....it takes time....I think....the same with me....very difficult to find the real ones.
Reply:It's hard to find great quality friends nowadays because so many people think it's more important to be cool or popular or thin than to be honest or generous or useful.





Find things to do that are likely to have people with similar values to yours, such as volunteering at an animal shelter, join a book discussion group at your library, volunteer at a wildlife refuge or nature center, be a candy striper at a hospital, etc. Keep trying and be patient and you will soon have lots of people around you that you have values and tastes in common with.