I want my friends to please quit saying I'll find someone else when I won't. I am NOT just "being negative"!

I want to scream and get VERY angry at people who've witnessed my hideously protracted and complex breakup with my uncommon outlaw husband of 10 years and tell me the same old other fish in the sea CRAP when they don't know the complications. They're too complex to describe here, but I need a certain exact physical and mental type or there's no sexual interest to me. But longhaired guys w/ no beard, genius intellect, obsessive devotion to his art, music, activism, writing etc. NEED to be there. I'm 41, herpes, hep c, exjunkie on methadone, used to work sex industry, 200 lbs (5'8") w/bizarre occult interests. Not what guys who I would WANT to have anything to do with would think of as a great catch. I can feel good about self, but he was IT, partnerwise, and anyone else would feel like less. I refuse to "settle for" someone who makes me feel less, as it would both be boring for me %26amp; also hurt the other guy. How can I get friends to stop telling me I'll find someone else? I WON'T.

I want my friends to please quit saying I'll find someone else when I won't. I am NOT just "being negative"!
Tell them those are exactly the words you Don't want to hear. Sure you'd love it to happen, but unless these people have become suddenly psychic--you'd appreciate the respect of them shutting their mouth on the subject. End of story.





You seem like you give a sh**. Kudos to you. You really seem to know yourself.





Don't you sometimes wish you just had an alternative sexual interest to find in guys? It'd make life so much easier. Damn. Can't have everything.





I hope those who know you will abandon their verbage. On a wacky day, you can always hang a shingle "Someone Else--they won't be here--so hush up!"





Take care of yourself~
Reply:well first, the f*ck what people tell you or think. its all about YOU. and you cant find anybody thinking this way, " oh i want this and that and this". cause everybody you will meet will have something u dont want but who cares? deal with it, nobody is perfect. good luck
Reply:It sounds like u wanna give up, but at the same time u just won't let it go.
Reply:just chill 4 a while relax!
Reply:Setting limitations on who you can love is setting yourself up for failure. I understand physical attraction, but sometimes you find that the most unlikely person is the one you fall in love with.


I suggest you become a little more open, I'm not saying just take anyone, but don't count everyone else out just because of the way they look.


You may find someone else, you may not. But you will have an easier time if you just let go of all your preconceived notions about who you have to love and just let love do the work.
Reply:oh knock it off and go get counseling.........
Reply:Get over youself... the world doesnt' revolve around you... i hated my friends for awhile after my guy dumped me and they said all that crap too about finding another guy.... just dont think too much about it.... you cant control what your friends say... if you really cant stand it just tell them.... talk to them about how you feel... if they really are your friends they will understand.... just tell your friends that you wanna take some time to enjoy your single life for a moment.... you cant go looking for someone new.... just let it be and things will happen.... i dont feel like finding someone new either and i told my friends my thoughts and they understood so juz talk to your friends......
Reply:ur right u will NEVER get another guy if you keep acting like this. ignore ur friends or better yet tell them to knock it off and that it bothers you when they say that.