Is it just me or is so hard to find good friends these days?

I am a SAHM of 2 young children and lately I just feel like I will never be able to find a true friend. I have several "friends" that I met through a mom's group but I don't consider any of them true friends. Most of them are very flaky and don't actualy take the time to listen to what you have to say. How do I go about making new friends when I stay home all day? Am I the only one that feels this way?

Is it just me or is so hard to find good friends these days?
I'm right there with YOU! Even my sister in law has a group of moms that she just met and they have kids my daughters age and she deliberately doesn't invite me. everything was a competition for her so i guess its comforting for her to feel that she has more "friends" than me..





It just goes to show that sometimes even family can be a little flaky too. I found more genuine people at my church that aren't moms or are a bit older than me to be great friends.
Reply:No, you are not the only one that feels that way. I know that it's hard to cope being a single mom, and feeling like you don't have any friends. I felt, and feel the same way. Even though it feels like you won't make any friends, and you feel like you are alone, you aren't. Try getting involved at a church, or a program through the community. Even if that is where you are going through right now, there are a ton of different classes that you can take with or without your kids that will help you network. Most of the classes that they offer have babysitters that can watch your kids for you while you are there. Otherwise, the youth in your church are a great recourse that can help you out. It may cost you a few bucks, but it will be worth it to get out of your house for a while.
Reply:ok i like to have you as a friend if u dont mind
Reply:I'm kinda in the same boat as you are. I'm 20 and have never had a good true friend. My only advice is that there should be one out there that will be a good true friend for you out there, don't worry too much.
Reply:I feel the same, I'm only a new mum and i lost most of my 'friends' during my pregnancy - I still have my very best friends but they're all very far away.





I refuse to join a mothers group because i'm just not a very material person and all they seem to talk about is who has the best top of the range what for thier baby.





Interested to see the answers to this one too =)
Reply:Most people are too self absorbed to think about others. I find pets make the best companions!
Reply:I have trouble making friends in general because I have major trust issues, but I can give some general advice. Look for friends in a group other than the mom's group. Look through your church, or maybe you can take a class in the evenings when your husband is home to watch the kids. Take ceramics or karate or a writing course, whatever seems interesting. The more you expand the group of people you know, the better your chance of finding a good friend. Also, maybe you can start a group of your own. Mothers who get together to power walk, or make mittens for the local domestic violence shelter or something that will attract a more serious minded group of women. Good luck.
Reply:i use to fell this way but i am a bit of a hermit and i did not like going out much. how ever i would make friends a work and at church and i prayed a little more and i made my husband lesson to me when i talked and my kids are keeping me pretty busy now so i don't have the time to feel depressed any more. try helping others some how you never know you might find your life friend there.