How do you find friends after kids?

my social life has faltered to zip after I had my girls and been in a serious relationship for four years.


How do you find friends again? With simliar interests to hang out with?


Please, don't say social groups.





When I mean hang out, I mean dinner parties, wine tastings, motorcycling riding, traveling, eating, pubs, etc.





Be mature and don't throw in bad mother comments. Thanks!


(although I know someone will ;) )

How do you find friends after kids?
What happen to ya old friends? Why are they cut off, didnt you have a good time with them at one point? You can regain a more compatible friend from old ones. I guarantee that haven't forgotten you and would have a lunch or two for starters. As your kids become involved into school, daycare, etc you will find other kids and their family to interact with. PTA, school events, or convo's in the daycare parking lot. If you want friends from similar interest, just go out to an event and talk to folks. Baseball games, movies, churches, college continuing education, or even travel to festivals where there is alot of similar people that self satisfy their own interest in city festivals. If your single then start dating, and if you dating then tell ya man to do his job, lol. Just be confident and work on improving yaself always, then everything will follow. Good luck!
Reply:as being a mother of 3 kids it isn't easy to get back on track( i mean go out). i think the best solution is , just go out , go to a pub ...and before you know someone starts to talk with you.Good luck anyway
Reply:Yeah, I've been there. My social life came to a drastic hault after the birth of my daughter. I'm doing better now though. I've met people that are in my situation, meaning married with children and work so know we get together on the weekends take the kids out together. Its pretty cool. From there its like a branch you just keep meeting new people, although I prefer to have few but good friends.
Reply:internet dating or friends clubs from the newspaper
Reply:well look in chat rooms or call old buddies
Reply:try friends with the same problem
Reply:Depending upon how old your girls are, you may find new friends with other parents at the schoo they go to. If there too young for school, do they go to nursery school.


If so, at least you can meet people that you have at least one thing in common with.....KIDS!


I'm sure you are a very good Mother.


Good luck
Reply:i bet theres a lot of mothers who also need help w/ their friends and stuff. i bet you could like find mothers who need the same thing you do if you just bring your kids everywhere, keep your eye out for another mother about your age who has kids about your age.


good luck!
Reply:Do you have neighbors that you would be interested in getting to know? How about co-workers? How about getting in touch with people that you used to hang out with? If you have their address, write them a quick note saying you were thinking about them, and would like to get together sometime. You can also get to know your daughter's friend's parents. I'm a mom and those are my ideas.


Your not a bad mom! Even mom's need friends and adult conversations!
Reply:Hi Fiestygirl, you mentioned a few pastimes of your own. Well why not go to these events and meet people there. Think of it this way; 'My best friend used to be a complete stranger to me' - You know what I mean :)
Reply:Go to some wine tasting events on your own or with a friend (girl) and see whom you might meet there. (of course do not make it your whole goal for the night) Try and enjoy what you are there for like wine tasting, you might learn some interesting things and make conversation with many people and that can lead to making new friends. Plus might get together for dinners this way, or other events such as motorcycle riding. You can find some local riding groups and see if they have any fund raisers. See if you can help in any way, or go to one of their events with a friend or two. Then you can meet new people this way. Try and go to have fun as well. Hope this helps your situation.
Reply:I think that you can try the local Park, and check out Parenting.com.... they have sites that are geared to where you live. You can also join a charity organization as a volunteer and then you can make new friends and attend those type of events!
Reply:write down the things you like to do, then go do them. you will find someone who likes the same things you do.
Reply:Well you could try looking online for people in your area 1st. Other than that just go out and do some of those things and you will find them cause they will be there too.
Reply:First of all, you don't go looking for friends, just as you wouldn't go out looking for a man/woman. If someone is interested in you enough just being the person that you are, then it will not be hard for you to find a friend, let alone a man/woman. Friendship is earned, not willing to let anyone just walk into your life around your kids, and you hardly know their last names. You have a lot to learn about life .
Reply:at the park with your kids, at the city pool, go online and look for book clubs or social events you could go to! I know how you feel I am in the same spot! Good luck! and you arent a bad mother! you are trying to keep your sanity! anyone that says you are a bad mother send em my way! HAVE FUN!
Reply:your question is in fact very interesting....I learned that those friends can be everywhere....they are probably with the same problem as you.....have you tried to ask somebody?


I had a very nice experience.....one of my daughters made friendship with a colleague.....and started to ask her to come spend the weekend and due to it we made a friendship with their parents.....and that was for everything....we had lots of fun


but the most important really is that you should keep in mind that there are thousands looking for the very same.....just let it be