Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Am i horrible for wanting to get rid of my friends and find new ones?

i am in year 10 at school and so in a year and a bit will be moving up to college. i am really looking forward to making new friends because my current friends never invite me to do anything, they are two-faced towards me and each other, one is a complete show off and always puts me down and the other is really insecure no matter what i do or try to say to her. when i go to college i want to find new friends and not stay with these people who i can't trust. but is it wrong to want to get rid of them?

Am i horrible for wanting to get rid of my friends and find new ones?
No, not at all. You would be silly if you didn't find friends that you liked and like you in return.
Reply:What makes you think any new friends won't have their share of troubles and weird characteristics the grass is not always greener on the other side, why don't you keep your friends and just expand the circle of friends you have.
Reply:True friends are hard to come by .believe me
Reply:if u think think they are two facced then get moving for new frendz....n its nothing wrong
Reply:No, its there own faults for been two faced and upseting you. Tell them you dont like been put down and your not been wrong for wanting to get rid of them, its because there been wrong to you.





Hope your new friends are good.
Reply:no, it's all part of life %26amp; growing up. you'll be making new friends in college anyway %26amp; would probably find you had very little in common with friends you left behind. especially if they don't go on to college. don't feel guilty about it, especially as they treat you so badly anyway. all the best for college, diane.
Reply:NO
Reply:If the people you call friend never invite tou to anything, and backstab you, they aren't really friends, are they?
Reply:nope, if they aint very good friends then it's fair enough, this year I am cutting down on contacting my mates. then we'll see who bothers to make contact!!
Reply:Dumping your friends is not nice, but it sounds as though your friends have dumped you. It's time to move on.
Reply:Nothing horrible here, you are growing up and away from your childhood friends, it is a natural progression. Hence the reunion. If we still all hung out together we would not have them. Relax and enjoy your college years, look your friends up when you graduate.
Reply:nope. its your choice. if you will be going to different universities, you wont be able to stay in touch anyway.
Reply:Yes it is wrong to get rid of them. Friends are like wine they say, the older they get the sweeter they taste. You could find newer friends why not nobody is stopping you but getting rid of old friends is very very UNWISE, you been with them through thick %26amp; thin now that your moving up you will forget them, how shameful you are. Stay with the old ones and find newer friends as additional.
Reply:if they always put you down and leave you out of thing their not true friends.


so your better of making new friends.
Reply:you can try and meet new friends but keep the old ones. Just tell them you are tired of talking behind eachother's backs and don


't want to hear about it. give them some time to outgrow this behaviour
Reply:its absolutely normal.....n ur not horrible......n its not wrong as well....if they behave wid u in dat manner den ur absolutely rite in gettin rid of dem 2 find new ones....
Reply:no, your friends suck.
Reply:I don't thing it's wrong.


You should stick around people who make you feel good.


If they're not treating you right, find people who do. =]


Happy New Year's! :)
Reply:how did you end up having friends like that in the firs place? try to learn from those mistakes so you don't make them again ... and you should move on now, you don't need to wait to go to college ... but every story has at least 2 sides, so before you get rid of your "friends" talk to them ... maybe things are not exactly as you see them
Reply:Alice, look at my past questions .... I'm in the totally same situation as you and trust me, you are not horrible. Wake up, these people put you down and make your life **** ! They are the ones that are horrible, not you. So get these people out of your life and do not let them get to you because I am with my "friends" and it is making me miserable so do not let the same thing happen to you, ok ? =] !





Good Luck.
Reply:to have a friendship is to be able to have someoe you can have a good time with and you can rely on and trust. if you feel this way they may feel the same. usually friends go their seperate ways around collage. so no it is not wrong and in a way it happens all the time.
Reply:I wouldn't say you are, to me these are not your "friends".


That word will get a deeper meaning for you as the years go by like it does for most of us. Live and learn, and as long you do you learn something from any mistake you make it's not all lost. Good luck girl!
Reply:it's not wrong to get rid of them, u can find new friends.





ENJOY!!
Reply:Sounds like they're not really your friends. You should start looking for friends now, why are you willing to allow these people to treat you badly as they are now?
Reply:no you are not wrong ,but be careful ,this is not a nice world we live in and new friends could be more dangerous that the old ones and you more harm
Reply:Friends don't leave friends uninvited or puts the other one down. Sometimes we tend to out grow temporary friendships as we mature or move on in life and make new ones along the way. You are not to limit yourself of friends because someone thinks that is horrible. It is not...for friends come and go.





Yet find yourself blessed if you can find anyone that will stand by yourside through thick and thin and lift you up when your down. Many go through life never being that special friend to someone and still they expect that kind of friendship.





Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Stay away from gossiping friends and backstabbers. Be selective and choosy of whom you will spend your time with.
Reply:Of course you're not horrible for wanting to get rid of horrible friends. This sounds like a mutually exploitative relationship anyway. They don't treat you like a friend at all, and I think it fair to assume that you only use them for their company. Why else would you put up with people like that? I would advise you to dump the eejits ASAP, never mind about college. I know you're probably afraid of their reactions and having no friends, but if you don't like a person then what's the point of leading them on? Were I in your friends' situation, I would prefer to be dumped than to be lead on. You'd be doing the right thing by ridding yourself of them.





And be sure to say "It's not like you'll notice my absense anyway".
Reply:In my ninth year, my "friends" of three years--we had been friends ever since I had moved there-- played a really mean trick on me that hurt my feelings and my reputation. It was the last of a series of such "games." I literally got up and walked away from them, went home, and resolved to have better friends or no friends at all.





I started tenth with no friends, because I wouldn't sit by these people at lunch, or in class, or at activities. Within the first week of the school year, I had a new set of friends. They were kind to me, and supportive, and understood why I had stopped being friends with my old set. In fact, they said they were surprised it had taken me this long to break it off. We had a great experience together in school, and kept in touch when we separated for college.





Good friends are the only kind of friends to have. If your friends aren't good friends, they really aren't friends at all.

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