Can a female have male friends and remain friends even though you find them attractive?

I have 2 male friends and find both of them attractive I have known them for 10-11 years and I have been married 15.

Can a female have male friends and remain friends even though you find them attractive?
I dont see why not. i am friends with many females of whom i find attractive but since they are married i dont make advances on them. I believe it is the same situation for you.
Reply:No.


There will be a vulnerable moment, and you have said you find them attractive.
Reply:I believe that men and women cannot be friends. One side will always be thinking about getting it one with the other.
Reply:it depends on you on how you define the word Attractive or Attraction,,,, and don't even think about it,,, ur gonna be messin ur lyf..... good luck...
Reply:This is inherently WHY male/female friendships don't work.





Yes, it is possible if everyone controls themselves not to have those 'feelings' turn into anything.. but it's a bit like flirting with danger.





Please remember, that while possible, it's also very likely that one/all of you will get hurt. Especially having 2 that you are attracted to. You are married.. are you 'married enough' that you have 'no desire' to step out on your marriage? This isn't a judgment, it's an honest question that only you can answer. If you even pause, then please be careful.. it's a sign that things aren't entirely right with your marriage.





It's so hard to be married in today's world and I commend all that are making a go of it. I failed in this department after nearly 11 yrs. I tried, but I also realize that I am only 1/2 of a team and I cannot 'fix' the marriage on my own. I made mistakes, and I hope to NEVER make them again, but as sure as I am human, I am sure that I have more lessons to learn and 'repeat lessons' that I didn't get the first time, and for you dear, I wish you all the best with this.





Out of curiosity.. have either 'returned the interest' toward you? If so, what did you do?
Reply:Yes we can. All my male friends r quite attractive and that's why I wanted to be friends with them. We're friends for a very long time and I never wanted to have sex with them.
Reply:In my experience, if one wants to maintain a pretense it can remain platonic., But, whenever either of us have expressed it openly, it has lead to sex or waning of the friendship due to complex feelings.
Reply:Yes.. definitely.
Reply:i think soooooo
Reply:Not if you're talking about me.
Reply:honestly i don't think that it is apporiate since you are married, i think that it is very disrespectful towards your husband, i mean how would you feel if things were the other way around?.... and come on if you were a man asking that question, theres no doubt in my mind that most people would oppose.
Reply:kind of if you are only friends.....best friends....
Reply:Which has nothing to do with love.,Love is someone you are willing to spent your life with is love. We can be attractive to anyone when it comes to body, which all females are but love cannot be replace by anyone.Love only comes once.Take care of what you have now.And yes d think Female are aloudto have friends.Because they make the best friends.

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